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Thursday, February 7, 2008

Feelings For Frances

I love my Frances. She's my first born, so of course that makes her totally awesome in every way. Everything she does is genius, every new milestone is a first.

She's also my only brown-eyed child. In my family of all blue/green eyed people, she really stands out (though her eyes are so dark that we can't see her pupils -- an important point when she would fall off the bed as a baby and we had to check to make sure she was OK).

She's my straight arrow. She makes us toe the line and is quick to point out if we're not following the rules. She's my enforcer of grocery budgets and the one who makes sure we say a prayer before driving in the snow.

She loves to sing, play the piano, dance, and draw. She's also super good at arithmetic, though it pains me to see as she gets older that she's starting to think that "math is boring" or "girls don't like math." We have to sneak it in to keep her skills up (she's a whiz at doubling fractions for recipes -- she also loves to cook).

The best thing I love about Frances? Her compassion. There's a boy in her class who obviously has some problems and every day is a struggle for him. He has the same last name as my family, so I used to jokingly tell her to be really nice to him because I didn't want to bump into him at a family reunion and find out that he's a distant cousin and she was mean to him. A few weeks later I got a note from her teacher saying that Frances always goes out of her way to help this boy out with his schoolwork and protects him when the other kids pick on him for being different.

Oh Frances, the world would be much different if everyone was like you -- and I think you will do your part to make it a better place.

11 comments:

The MacMizzles said...

Oh my, just reading about her makes me want to know her. I have a brown eyed boy myself...he is loving and compassionate. I know how you feel. What a great family you have.

Am'n2Deep said...

I'm a sucker for compassion every time...made me cry!

My husband is the only brown-eyed babe at our house. I guess he kept all the love for himself!

Very sweet post! Loved it!!

debi9kids said...

This was so touching and made me feel like I know her.
Gotta ask...she fell of the bed often? LOL I'm sure it wasn't meant to read that way....heehee

Carina said...

I want a brown-eyed, brown haired child.

Monica B. said...

I wonder if it is a first child thing. You just totally described my oldest Sadie (except the math part). Sadie is a champion for the underdog, and I beam with pride every time she helps someone who needs a friend.

Your daughter sounds like a wonderful person.

Lois said...

McMILLANS -- yeah, we like her.

AMN2DEEP -- glad you like it.

BOUFMOM9 -- yeah, she actually fell out of the bed or high chair quite often (that explains a lot).

AZUCAR -- I thought all my kids would have brown eyes (since Nigel has brown eyes and his parents have brown eyes). I guess that junior high biology teacher was wrong.

MONICA B -- yes, we try to stress looking out for the underdog in our family (because it's usually us).

Am'n2Deep said...

Alright lois, call me a geek, but I could never get enough of the life sciences (I was a biology major in college), and I just can't resist...humor me...

Even though Nigel and both of his parents had brown eyes,it's still possible (obviously) for your children to have blue/green eyes. One of his parents passed down the dominant brown gene, the other must have passed on a recessive blue/green gene, which Nigel passed on to your other two children. You obviously only carry 2 recessive blue/green eye color genes--so therefore your children actually have less of a chance to have brown eyes than blue/green.

Clear as mud?

Yup, I am clearly a dork...

dalene said...

I love this post!

Geo said...

I love the Denominator family!

SC_mommie said...

Hey! Mom's worried about y'all cause her emails to you keep getting rejected... (grin)(Not sure that the two are related)(I don't think she's considered just CALLING or snail-mailing y'all either...)

STILL diggin' the blog!

Lois said...

AMN2DEEP -- thanks for the explanation! I wish I had you for junior high biology!

CW -- glad you liked it.

GEO -- yes, we Denominators dominate!

SC MOMMIE -- I'm guessing that her e-mails were getting returned because our mailbox was full (I've been sick, so I haven't kept up on deleting all the junk we get).